Tempting Fate or not?
Hi all.
Been a while this one and thought I would delay for a couple of reasons. Firstly page reads have fallen off a cliff for the last blog and presumed (rightly or wrongly) that people may be tiring of this blog so felt it best to leave it until I have something to say / report.
I'm hoping blog fatigue hasn't set in and I hope in the coming months once progress quickens that you will find a need to tune in again. As always I have no problem with this being shared so if you feel like passing this on then please do.
So as to news. Well I am told by my estate agent that the parties want to complete by the end of the month on the house chain. About time too but as always until the ink is dried on the contracts then I wont be taking anything for granted. That said it seems a lot more positive that previous false dawns so at last I might actually be progressing.
It has always seemed far in the future but it has dawned on me that in the not too distant future I should be living in my own place and as me. That however means I'll have to address the last few people to tell and that they may arguably be the most difficult. I'll revert back to this in a future blog but its time to start planning.
I haven't committed to a new house until I knew what the position with mine was like. So I need to get looking and quick. A short period of living back at my dads to follow it seems and then freedom. Once I get my own digs, then at home and socially I will be Amanda immediately. Work is a bit more complicated but once I know when I am moving into my new place I can at least start to talk about timescales with them. Name change will follow as soon as I am in my own place. Im doing that after as opposed to before for 2 reasons. 1 is I need the divorce sealed or she can actually stop it. The divorce (which the final papers are with the court at the moment) has to be finalized. 2 to do a name change and all that entails as well as getting divorced / moving house would be too much at once. Get settled then do it. Once the name is changed then legally I can start changing documents which enables me to formally live my new life.
So I am hopeful that real progress will be made in the next few weeks.
In the meantime my mobile phone died! Dont realize how much you rely on it and for 4 days I was offline!! Back now and with a better phone so I can actually blog from my phone now!! See how that goes in coming weeks notably as I attend Bristol Pride in early July. I'll keep you fully informed of what goes on that weekend and as the new phone has better cameras front and back then expect loads of phots and selfies on my social media channels.
Clothing keeps increasing. Two more dresses bought and one I confess is very short. Now I have long legs. By product of being tall and I am generally evenly distributed between torso and legs. Bit of recent work means the legs are I wouldnt say toned but they arent exactly out of shape either. Some have said I have good legs so if the weather goes tropical (and notably not windy) then that dress may well get worn. Take a bit of confidence to wear that I think, as just covers the real end by a few inches! Pair with my rainbow Converse? What do you think?
Other dress is a Phase Eight in pink silk. Say no more but a bit posher!
Might wear that for work or a night out after work. Not sure yet. Very light and some black heels would go well with it?
Other updates is my Phillips stun gun is doing its job. Hand hair gone, under arm hair in remission and well under control. Chest hair going in patches so getting extra zaps and arm hair also reducing. Legs are less of a problem as shaving keeps them easily under control but they will be next. So far so good on that front. Face needs commercial zapping and probably electrolysis. Ive heard that hurts so that may take a bit of time.
Last bit of news is that I did another talk in front of my Leeds colleagues on Friday. Subject was support and bigged up both important individuals in my life and how work groups had helped. I stressed that listening and engagement is so so important. Normalize it don't hide away from it and dont avoid it. I never feel awkward even in male mode when people talk about my being trans. Just glad that someone or anyone is interested in me and my journey.
So with that I will sign off. Hopefully all limbs crossed by the next blog in a couple of weeks I might well be on the way
In the meantime thanks for the continued support and for tuning in. Feedback / comments here, social media or face to face always welcomed.
Love
Amanda
xx
Been a while this one and thought I would delay for a couple of reasons. Firstly page reads have fallen off a cliff for the last blog and presumed (rightly or wrongly) that people may be tiring of this blog so felt it best to leave it until I have something to say / report.
I'm hoping blog fatigue hasn't set in and I hope in the coming months once progress quickens that you will find a need to tune in again. As always I have no problem with this being shared so if you feel like passing this on then please do.
So as to news. Well I am told by my estate agent that the parties want to complete by the end of the month on the house chain. About time too but as always until the ink is dried on the contracts then I wont be taking anything for granted. That said it seems a lot more positive that previous false dawns so at last I might actually be progressing.
It has always seemed far in the future but it has dawned on me that in the not too distant future I should be living in my own place and as me. That however means I'll have to address the last few people to tell and that they may arguably be the most difficult. I'll revert back to this in a future blog but its time to start planning.
I haven't committed to a new house until I knew what the position with mine was like. So I need to get looking and quick. A short period of living back at my dads to follow it seems and then freedom. Once I get my own digs, then at home and socially I will be Amanda immediately. Work is a bit more complicated but once I know when I am moving into my new place I can at least start to talk about timescales with them. Name change will follow as soon as I am in my own place. Im doing that after as opposed to before for 2 reasons. 1 is I need the divorce sealed or she can actually stop it. The divorce (which the final papers are with the court at the moment) has to be finalized. 2 to do a name change and all that entails as well as getting divorced / moving house would be too much at once. Get settled then do it. Once the name is changed then legally I can start changing documents which enables me to formally live my new life.
So I am hopeful that real progress will be made in the next few weeks.
In the meantime my mobile phone died! Dont realize how much you rely on it and for 4 days I was offline!! Back now and with a better phone so I can actually blog from my phone now!! See how that goes in coming weeks notably as I attend Bristol Pride in early July. I'll keep you fully informed of what goes on that weekend and as the new phone has better cameras front and back then expect loads of phots and selfies on my social media channels.
Clothing keeps increasing. Two more dresses bought and one I confess is very short. Now I have long legs. By product of being tall and I am generally evenly distributed between torso and legs. Bit of recent work means the legs are I wouldnt say toned but they arent exactly out of shape either. Some have said I have good legs so if the weather goes tropical (and notably not windy) then that dress may well get worn. Take a bit of confidence to wear that I think, as just covers the real end by a few inches! Pair with my rainbow Converse? What do you think?
Other dress is a Phase Eight in pink silk. Say no more but a bit posher!
Might wear that for work or a night out after work. Not sure yet. Very light and some black heels would go well with it?
Other updates is my Phillips stun gun is doing its job. Hand hair gone, under arm hair in remission and well under control. Chest hair going in patches so getting extra zaps and arm hair also reducing. Legs are less of a problem as shaving keeps them easily under control but they will be next. So far so good on that front. Face needs commercial zapping and probably electrolysis. Ive heard that hurts so that may take a bit of time.
Last bit of news is that I did another talk in front of my Leeds colleagues on Friday. Subject was support and bigged up both important individuals in my life and how work groups had helped. I stressed that listening and engagement is so so important. Normalize it don't hide away from it and dont avoid it. I never feel awkward even in male mode when people talk about my being trans. Just glad that someone or anyone is interested in me and my journey.
So with that I will sign off. Hopefully all limbs crossed by the next blog in a couple of weeks I might well be on the way
In the meantime thanks for the continued support and for tuning in. Feedback / comments here, social media or face to face always welcomed.
Love
Amanda
xx
It could be that page reads are down as things are on a bit of a hiatus at present or maybe just because lots of people are on their hols! Promising news on the house front - as you say though, no celebrations until it really happens. After you finally move out, there's a new house to find, divorce, name change. You're doing all these highly stressful things over a short timescale. You must be keen to start your new life but not tackling too many changes at once is the way to go. Hang in there!
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