Reminders

 This time of year is always time of memories and anniversaries.

January is the month my deed poll came through and February is transitioning day. First full day as me and first day in work as me as well.

It's been 4 years since those events and coming up to 7 years since I started writing this blog.

What an amazing journey I've been on.

It's mainly been positive and with only a few set backs or negatives.

I've said this a lot but whilst the bulk of the journey is out of the way, I'm still going through changes, learning new things and adapting.

For instance I've still got a few areas of stubborn body hair. It's minor but I've started using my home zapper again to try and get rid. It zaps the hair with high energy light and after a few weeks it's already had an effect. A couple of months and that will be gone as well.

I was also conscious of giving back to my community. This blog was the beginning of finding my voice. I've always been of strong views but didn't have the confidence to speak up. Not anymore.

I'm vocal about the rights of the LGBTQ community and in particular the transgender community. 500+ followers on LinkedIn was passed recently and being tagged as a voice of my community on there was an amazing achievement. 

I'm more and more attracted to diversity initiatives getting involved in my community and employment with other like minded individuals. I really sense a future where I can influence.

I've also got one eye on this blog being about to hit 30k views. That might be the point to call it a day even though I've still got lots to say. There are however many ways to get the message over. Let's see what happens this year before I stop blogging.

This is also an anniversary of four years without a date. Yes I've met people to whom I am attracted both male and female. Yet I'm not alone in my community in that dating is difficult.

Again society as I mentioned in my last blog determines so much. Pressure to conform means anyone who does something outside of the norm risks social exclusion. It weird with all the rich diversity of humanity that at times we let others dictate our happiness.

The answer to this conundrum seems out of my personal control in that if I like someone and they like me it's up to them to challenge social convention. Ironically I need to meet someone with the same outlook as me. So much for opposites attract eh.

Until then I'm going to throw myself into as much as I can of variety and hope without expectations that something happens. Friendship and company are part of who I am and I'm not going to miss out 

In the meantime I'm still loving being me and loving doing good for my community.....oh and shopping!!

I hope you all regardless of your situation find time for romance and companionship.

Amanda xx