Allies....we demand more.

I write this after my likely last Pride of 25. It's been pretty much non stop since June and I  will be glad to go on holiday in 3 weeks to recharge the battery.

It's been a strange year. DEI cut backs have been obvious and noticeable with most Prides having to readjust.

However what I have seen this year is greater numbers turning up. Despite loud voices decrying our community, normal everyday people are still there to support us.

So how do we address the issue of rollback and fix it.

Firstly being an ally is no longer about just nodding in the right places or if I may be so blunt as by simply putting up with us.

Allies now need to up their game significantly.

In my circle of friends, colleagues and family I have seen only one stand alongside me and indeed walk with me who wasn't a member of the LGBTQ community.

One....

Sorry but that's not good enough and to be honest embarrassing for you all. I know I go everywhere I can and I don't expect people to commit like I do, but one day out, standing alongside me in a 3 month period isn't anywhere much too ask.

To do so shows that you don't just care about me but it also sends a message that as allies you care about the community. Companies and politicians alike cannot ignore support from outside of the community.

It's therefore essential going forward that as well as perhaps wearing the lanyard you step up. Saying you've been in a "gay" bar is no longer the badge you think it is.....more is required.

Walking in a Pride march is a life affirming event. If that's too much stand at the side and cheer your friends and colleagues. It makes a huge difference to see people you know in the crowd supporting you.

Defend us also when we are not there. Have courage in your convictions that you do actually support our rights sufficiently enough to want to stand up for us in absentia. 

Our community is getting a battering at the moment and we desperately need the support of all. It's now time for you to get equally vocal. 

Ive had a fantastic time this year. As much as I enjoy it, there is no doubt that I would enjoy it more having friends, family and colleagues standing shoulder to shoulder or seeing their faces in a crowd supporting me.

2026 isn't far off. I'm planning on mixing it up a bit next year (London I'm heading your way!) so why not join a member of the LGBTQ community at an event however you know them. Open your eyes but most importantly....open your mouth.

Amanda xx