Under starters orders...
Hi all,
Well its took sometime but I finally have got there.
As of today I exchanged on my new house!! Whoooooooooooo!! Legally bound to sell / buy now.
For those who don't want to read back through 3 years of blogs the plan was this
Separate - Sell old house - Divorce - Buy new house - Change name - Go part time - Go Full time.
Its took sooooo long to get here for a variety of reasons some perhaps within my control but mostly out of my control.
Why you ask did I need my own place first. This is a very important step for me. A simple things such as hanging my clothes up instead of out of boxes or hidden bags. I can live my life entirely without having to compromise or hide.
In light of the time of the year I wasn't going to insist on kicking the family out of their house before Christmas. I'm not that type of person. I'm relatively comfortable with my Dad and actually will be nice to have company over the festivities albeit not entirely as I hoped.
Gives me a bit of time to plan for the future and get things in place rather than rushing and living in a half furnished home.
So whats next? Well the plan was that I would change my name pretty quickly but not before the ink was dry on the legal documents. I wanted to get everything in place and then tell them the name changes. I reckon that's easier to do.
So with about a month to go with the inevitable disruption of Christmas, I will be early next week applying for a formal deed poll name change on the basis that it will take (normally) a few weeks and therefore hopefully come through a couple of weeks max after I move in.
I will however within a few days of moving in start living part time (I would prefer to have changed name for purposes of work) as Amanda. That's shopping, socializing and generally pottering around the neighborhood. My new neighbors will get a little note through the door so they know from day one. I hope that they are open enough to accept their new neighbor as who they are.Realistically due to the nature of the area, I only have 3 of them (one of the reasons why I picked this house) despite it being quite urban. Just the layout of the road was very private. So hopefully they will be cool.
I've mentioned before that I was wary about continuing to follow my football team as Amanda. Well having seen a transwoman at a game as a visiting fan and no one even noticed, then I am at the point now that I don't care and I shouldn't have to make that choice.
I have a close group of friends who know and have been exceptionally supportive. I am therefore ready to continue to support my team.
I have worked out when I will first go. As it happens the first is an away game and locally so that's a good start followed by a home game the following week. Good way to break in the change. Social media will get hit about a few days before the away trip so everyone knows. I am hopeful of a good response. Not sure where I will sit / stand yet for the home game but i'll go with my gut instinct on the day I think. At the away we all stand together so that will be fine. Safety in numbers.
So this will be my penultimate blog of 2019. I have my works xmas party this Friday and will update on that before the end of the year. Frock is good to go and all ready for that but this year I can actually say what is going to happen next. Bet some are sick of me not moving forward as quickly as I first hoped.
I am both extremely excited and nervous in equal proportions at this moment in time. Its been a very long time coming in two respects. I've known since early childhood that this was there but its been 3 years since I committed to this path and there have been so so many bumps in the road that you never quite knew when you would get there. There has always been false dawns and planning that had to be put back that I felt sometimes that I would never get there.
However now I know that its within reach. Whilst the delays have been very frustrating, its given me extra time to plan and think (and buy clothes). I think I am as best prepared as I can be but that wont stop the nerves or apprehension. To those who know me day to day your continued support is vital be it a quiet word or just a nod - sometimes something that little is enough you know.
So until next time, thanks as always for reading
Amanda
xx
Well its took sometime but I finally have got there.
As of today I exchanged on my new house!! Whoooooooooooo!! Legally bound to sell / buy now.
For those who don't want to read back through 3 years of blogs the plan was this
Separate - Sell old house - Divorce - Buy new house - Change name - Go part time - Go Full time.
Its took sooooo long to get here for a variety of reasons some perhaps within my control but mostly out of my control.
Why you ask did I need my own place first. This is a very important step for me. A simple things such as hanging my clothes up instead of out of boxes or hidden bags. I can live my life entirely without having to compromise or hide.
In light of the time of the year I wasn't going to insist on kicking the family out of their house before Christmas. I'm not that type of person. I'm relatively comfortable with my Dad and actually will be nice to have company over the festivities albeit not entirely as I hoped.
Gives me a bit of time to plan for the future and get things in place rather than rushing and living in a half furnished home.
So whats next? Well the plan was that I would change my name pretty quickly but not before the ink was dry on the legal documents. I wanted to get everything in place and then tell them the name changes. I reckon that's easier to do.
So with about a month to go with the inevitable disruption of Christmas, I will be early next week applying for a formal deed poll name change on the basis that it will take (normally) a few weeks and therefore hopefully come through a couple of weeks max after I move in.
I will however within a few days of moving in start living part time (I would prefer to have changed name for purposes of work) as Amanda. That's shopping, socializing and generally pottering around the neighborhood. My new neighbors will get a little note through the door so they know from day one. I hope that they are open enough to accept their new neighbor as who they are.Realistically due to the nature of the area, I only have 3 of them (one of the reasons why I picked this house) despite it being quite urban. Just the layout of the road was very private. So hopefully they will be cool.
I've mentioned before that I was wary about continuing to follow my football team as Amanda. Well having seen a transwoman at a game as a visiting fan and no one even noticed, then I am at the point now that I don't care and I shouldn't have to make that choice.
I have a close group of friends who know and have been exceptionally supportive. I am therefore ready to continue to support my team.
I have worked out when I will first go. As it happens the first is an away game and locally so that's a good start followed by a home game the following week. Good way to break in the change. Social media will get hit about a few days before the away trip so everyone knows. I am hopeful of a good response. Not sure where I will sit / stand yet for the home game but i'll go with my gut instinct on the day I think. At the away we all stand together so that will be fine. Safety in numbers.
So this will be my penultimate blog of 2019. I have my works xmas party this Friday and will update on that before the end of the year. Frock is good to go and all ready for that but this year I can actually say what is going to happen next. Bet some are sick of me not moving forward as quickly as I first hoped.
I am both extremely excited and nervous in equal proportions at this moment in time. Its been a very long time coming in two respects. I've known since early childhood that this was there but its been 3 years since I committed to this path and there have been so so many bumps in the road that you never quite knew when you would get there. There has always been false dawns and planning that had to be put back that I felt sometimes that I would never get there.
However now I know that its within reach. Whilst the delays have been very frustrating, its given me extra time to plan and think (and buy clothes). I think I am as best prepared as I can be but that wont stop the nerves or apprehension. To those who know me day to day your continued support is vital be it a quiet word or just a nod - sometimes something that little is enough you know.
So until next time, thanks as always for reading
Amanda
xx
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